There are many aspects to BDSM of which Dominant/submissive (D/s) is one. While I am not as experienced as some in this discipline, to Me flogging and spanking are to be a sensual experience with a little pain to enhance the senses. I am the Dominant of a submissive who is also My wife of many wonderful years, W/we began O/our journey on the path of D/s over a year ago, and B/both greatly enjoy a good spanking (her receiving of course). The following is my view of a typical spanking or flogging scene.

     To set the mood for a usual scene, I will call My love from work during the day, telling her that I wish to give her a spanking and for her to think of what I will do to her. I tell her about what time I will arrive and that I expect her to be prepared for Me. Now of course I rarely come home exactly at the time specified for that would allow her to plan, sometimes I am a little early and sometimes I arrive late, all this is to build the anticipation of the scene.

     On the drive home I concentrate on what I will do with My love, and place My mind in a Dom state, meaning that when I arrive home, it is not My wife and life partner I will see, but My submissive who is waiting to serve and please Me. Once I arrive home, I will get a large glass of ice water (perhaps to drink, perhaps the cubes may be used) taking it with Me I go upstairs to O/our bedroom and check that all is prepared correctly, a single candle burning, soft classical music playing, O/our king-sized bed properly made up, My toy bag placed beside the bed. I nod My approval, then look at My love, she is kneeling on the floor at the bottom of the bed, back straight, head lowered, hands palms up resting on her spread thighs. This vision always stirs within Me all My Dominant feelings and much more, for she is a vision of beauty kneeling there naked waiting for Me, her submissiveness a aura surrounding her. During this time not a word is spoken. I then place My bag upon the bed and begin to remove and lay on the bed the items I will may use in the scene. Some items will not be used, but of course My love does not know this. For this occasion I place a small vibrator, a realistic dildo, nipple clamps, wrist and ankle cuffs, 3 six-foot lengths of 3/8 cotton rope and a blindfold. I lay all these items carefully on the bed, making sure it is plainly in her view. I then go to the closet and get My flogger (deer skin, 20 18 tails and small smooth studs on the handle) and My crop, I lay these by the other items on the bed. Mentally I also work on calming Myself for even Dom's get aroused and excited, but to test My love properly I must be calm and patient.

     Once all is ready, I take a seat on the bed in front of her and look at her intently, savoring the moment, always a little excited about what is to occur. I place My hand under her chin and raise her face until My eyes meet hers and with a soft smile, look at her and ask her if she is ready, she replies in a quiet nervous voice "yes Master" I lower My hands for her to take and I raise her up to her feet, I lightly run My fingers thru her soft red hair and gently place a kiss on her neck, above the black velvet collar she wears. I tell her how much I love her and that I will greatly enjoy testing her. I then place the wrist and ankle cuffs on her and lead her to the archway in O/our bedroom, where I have a eyebolt fasten in the top center of the archway, I tie off one end to the rope in it and then pull her arms up using the d-ring on her cuffs, making sure that she can stand firmly and grasp the rope with her hands for support. I always make very sure she is comfortable, for if to much strain on her arms, she will tire quickly and then her mind will be on her aching arms and not on Me, where it should be. Then her ankles are tied off on two more eyebolts on the lower sides of the archway. The blindfold is then put in place and checked to make sure she can see nothing, once this is accomplished I move from her. I will make no sound for several minutes watching her, once again allowing her to think of what is to come. And also I can review My plans for her, as you can see, to Me it is important to have a good plan of what I want to do, so there are no lags in the scene.

     I quietly undress until I am also naked, and then I walk up behind My love and wrap My arms around her, cupping her breasts and lightly playing with her nipples, I press My body against her cheeks of her ass and ask her if she is wet yet, and not waiting for her reply, I lower My hand to check her treasure, always finding her moist and ready. I smile and control My own passion at this point for the sight of My love tied, blindfolded and naked with her legs spread always arouses Me. Moving back from her I then gently strike each cheek of her ass with My hand, then caress her cheeks and again spank her lightly, in between these gentle spanks, I will kneed her cheeks, wanting her relaxed and not tense, if the buttocks are tense she will feel the sting much more acutely. Feeling that she is in a good relaxed state, I spank each of her cheeks firmly and after each pair of blows, I cup her cheeks in My hands and squeeze them, kneading them tightly, I repeat this for several minutes, a pair of firm whacks to the ass, followed by gripping them in My hands. After this warm-up, I take the nipple clamps and moving around to in front of her, pull on each nipple until firm and erect. My love's nipples are very sensitive and I love to take each nipple between My forefinger and thumb and rub them back and forth, hearing her soft intakes of breath and her moans, then seeing her hips move as her nipples seem to have a direct circuit to the treasure between her legs. I then place the clamps on her, once both are securely in place I take five small weights and fasten them to the chain attached to the clamps, as I place each weight on the chain I allow it to drop down, tugging on the clamps. A small moan escapes her lips as I do this and I softly smile, knowing she is falling further into her submissive state of mind.

     Taking up My flogger I let the tails caress her cheeks and lightly swing the flogger, letting it wrap lightly around her ribs and caress her breasts, I do this very carefully, only letting her know what I have in My hand and plan to use on her. By this time, mentally I have moved into a different mental state, My concentration on her complete, feeling her almost a part of Me, I am no longer in a state of arousal, but one of control, knowing that I have this precious gift placed before Me for My pleasure. I move in front of My love and very lightly swing the tails between her legs, making sure the tails do not snap, I let them caress her moist treasure. I step back and to her side I swing the flogger a little firmer, striking her cheeks, and she moans and jumps as the first blow lands. Moving from one side to the other I swing My flogger, striking the cheeks of her ass and her thighs, the tails landing firmly on her skin, I build a slow but steady rhythm, watching each blow of the flogger land on its intended target, My love whimpers lightly, but her body betrays her as it moves back to receive each blow. Stopping to check her color, I lightly run My hands over her ass, feeling the heat from her cheeks, then I take the handle of the flogger and run it between her legs, pressing the handle upward, I pull it from front to back, letting the smooth studs rub her, then holding the handle still, I ask My love to show Me she enjoys what I am giving her and her moves her body back and forth over the handle, her passion rising. I tell her she is My wonderful slut and ask does she want to cum for her Master? she moans and moves her body more over the handle of My flogger in answer. I reach around her and quickly remove the nipple clamps and as she moans from the blood returning to her nipples, I take the dildo and slide it into her, smiling as I feel the dildo slip into her easily, her arousal very apparent, as I firmly stroke the dildo into her, the passion builds and she shakes as she pleads with Me to allow her to orgasm, I pause for a moment watching her face, I love the look of My love when she is so close and struggling to hold her orgasm for Me. Then as I allow her to orgasm, I feel a almost overwhelming sense of love and affection for her this woman, over whose body I have total control. I stand before her and pull her body tight to Mine. I have learned through talking with My love after scenes that My love enjoys being built up to a peak, then brought down, then peaked again, so I alternate between the spanking and caressing, playing her body like a beautiful instrument, after holding her for a little while, My hands reach down and firmly cups the cheeks of her ass, and from this position I start to spank each cheek firmly, with her body tight against Mine and feeling her in the after throes of her orgasm, the pain from each blow on her cheeks forcing her body to press hard against Mine.

     I then move around and standing by her side, begin to firmly spank My love, with My hands, feeling her recoil from each blow and then sagging a little the rope straining holding her arms aloft. Her moans coming a little louder now, but her body prepares to receive each blow from My hands. I spank her again and again and again, My hand landing firmly on each cheek and thigh in turn, I lean over to look for a nice consistent color on her cheeks, the red showing nicely, and uniform over her ass and thighs, I pause periodically to let her relax for just a moment, running My hands over her now hot cheeks, down between the her legs, her moistness more and more apparent. Watching her carefully waiting until the right moment, when her limits are pushed yet she still is able to take more, I tell her that she will receive 2 more blows to each cheek, I strike her harder than before, once hard on each cheek, her moans coming rapidly and louder, then again I strike each cheek hard, and watch as she slumps down, almost hanging limp, the rope holding her, taunt.

      I lean over and quickly release her ankles from the cuffs, then holding her firmly in My arm, reach up and release her wrists, her body sags against Mine, I pick her up in My arms and carry her to the bed, laying her gently down on her back, I caress her very tenderly telling her how very wonderful she was and how proud I am of her. At this point I feel Myself again become aroused, looking down on this woman who has given herself to Me so completely, I very gently and lovingly spread her legs and move between them, as I lower Myself down and slowly enter her, she pleads with Me to allow her to cum, I whisper to her to wait and as I thrust into her harder, I whisper in her ear, "cum for Me My love, now "as a powerful orgasm over takes her, she brings Me with her and I feel not only a orgasm from My loins, but also from My soul. I lower My head and softly kiss My love, My heart full and My passion satisfied. As I slowly pull Myself from her and roll to My side pulling her very close to Me, her head laying on My shoulder, her breathing short and ragged, I reach over and pull a blanket over her. Holding her close to Me and lightly caressing her face, I cuddle with My love, as she begins to shiver next to Me. I think at that moment a Man can have no greater love for a woman, and I am blessed with having her as Mine. I lay there beside her until her breathing has slowed and she is half asleep, marvelling at her beauty. 

      I dedicate this narrative to My love, My wife and My partner, ivy. For without her, D/s would have no meaning, her submission to Me is the most wondrous, precious gift in the world. Thank you My love.

Kevin